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QUESTION:
I am going to preface this email by saying I
know how you feel about “rescue” dogs and yet I’m going to
ask a question anyway. I am a foster mom for a rescue. I
have owned and raised dogs for well over 2 decades. I only
recently began working with a rescue to try to give a dog a
home instead of buying animals when I didn’t know the
origins.
A while
ago, the
county served a seizure warrant for many dogs housed in
unkempt conditions, malnourished dogs and almost all the
dogs had heartworms, several died within days from distemper
and parvo. I personally have 2 dogs from that situation. The
dog in question is a young female Labrador who is
approximately 11 months old and weighed 18 pounds when I
took her. She is now at 40 pounds and seems to be doing well
health wise. She is about the size of a 6 month old, and my
vet says she will get no bigger.
My question to you is about this dog's
elimination issues. She appears to have had no human
interaction and was very scared of everyone and everything
when I first brought her home. I admittedly made the mistake
of laying her on my bed when I brought her home and now she
considers that her safe place and never wants to leave it.
She runs back to it when I bring her in from outside and she
hides there all day unless she’s in her crate. She also
considers her crate a safe place now but prefers my bed. My
other dogs are allowed to sleep on my bed at night and have
never been discouraged from doing so. My problem with Sara
is that she will urinate on my bed. This is after she has
been out repeatedly and has eliminated outside. I take her
out about every 3-4 hours and she goes on the command of
Sara go potty, hurry hurry. She will not walk outside on her
own, if I put her on the floor to follow me she jumps right
back on the bed and cowers behind the pillows. I have had to
carry her outside every time since I brought her home.
Because this was a seizure incident and not a
straight foster/adopt issue there is no option of giving her
back. We are still trying to find fosters for the dozens of
dogs that were seized while we await trial. I want to do the
right thing for this girl and she has been coming out of her
shell very slowly, learning to play with the other dogs and
with toys and such. She has only two negative behaviors and
that is the inappropriate urination and chewing of my
headboard/footboard. I am working with her on redirect to
appropriate toys to chew but the elimination issue persists.
I should also point out that her kennel stays dry, with the
exception of when she first came to me and didn’t know what
a kennel was. She urinated and defecated in it the first
time she was crated. She has not repeated that behavior
since.
When she is kenneled, in the mornings to eat
and then again when I leave for work she barks and cries
constantly. She will not bark once I leave the house. As
soon as she hears the garage door close she stops. She will
also remain quiet if anyone else is in the house while she
is kenneled. If I am home and she is crated she never stops
barking and pawing at the door.
I am not sure if you can or will want to
offer any advice in this instance, but I am hoping you will.
ANSWER:
I'm not certain what you mean when
you say you know how I feel about "rescue" dogs. I have done
my own share of taking on homeless dogs, rehabilitating them
and rehoming - always on my own dime. I have also acquired
some of my personal dogs from rescues / rehome situations.
I do have an issue with what I
have come to know as a "rescue" mentality that many people
bestow on their dogs, and I do have a big issue with some of
the politics that surround rescue organizations. But, I don't
have a problem with the actual dogs. People, yes, sometimes,
I find quite challenging. But, regardless of where the dog
may have lived prior to my encountering it, I treat dogs the
same. It is just a dog with its own set of strengths and
weaknesses. I do not handicap it by referring to it as a
"rescue". That is my pet peeve, and to be very frank, that is
the reason that you are struggling with your 11 month old dog,
in my opinion, based on what you have written. You see her as
a "rescue" first, and as Sara, second. You view her as a dog,
third. She needs to be honored and respected for the species
that she is, first. That's just my assessment.
There are solutions to all of the
issues you describe, but they are not things that I can
adequately explain in an email or say over the phone. There
is too much chance for misinterpretation. But, in a nutshell,
based on what you have written, I suspect that your dog is
remaining helpless because you are treating her as if she is
helpless. She is remaining hyper-submissive (including
urinating in submission) because you are telling her, by your
actions, that she should behave that way. Unless she cannot
walk on her own due to a medial issue, she should walk to the
door and go outside (you should not carry her). By carrying
her you are telling her you don't believe she can even walk,
let alone show some self restraint. I realize that you
believe she cannot / will not walk on her own. And, that is
the crux of your issue. She CAN walk. For some reason, you
are not willing to MAKE her walk. That could be because you
think that would be too cruel, since she came from such a bad
place - that to MAKE her do anything would be upsetting. Or,
perhaps it is because you find value in keeping her a helpless
baby because it gives you something you need - and by that I
do not mean to criticize. Simply, I have dealt with LOTS
of issues like this, and that is sometimes the root of the
problem. Sara must walk on her own. However, you must not
"bribe" her to walk with treats or other goodies, sweet words
or hopes and cheers. Those behaviors are interpreted as
weakness and will exacerbate the problem. Your soothing,
coddling tones trigger helplessness in the dog, not courage or
strength. That does not mean you should yell at her or show
frustration, anger or disappointment. Those are equally as
damaging. There is a right way to do it - it's just something
that cannot be explained in words because it requires a
"touch", a give and take between the dog and handler. It is
what we do for a living.
By not properly correcting her for
whining in her crate, you are telling her that she has no
capacity to be self-restrained. Even a 4 week old baby wolf
pup is corrected for barking in the den in order to keep
predators away. An 11 month old dog should certainly be able
to have the self composure to stay quite. The fact that she
acts out when you are around and when you leave the problem
abates, is pretty clear that she believes she has the right to
protest her condition to you. An 11 month old dog should not
believe that it can protest. In a normal, well balanced
pack of dogs, she would be corrected for such behavior. It is
disrespectful. It is akin to a child screaming, "Mommy, Mommy,
Mommy, Mommy!" while the mother is on the telephone or
otherwise engaged. Her urination (specifically on YOUR
bed) may also be a sign of dominance, not submission, if she
believes that you are lower ranking than she is and she is
beginning to claim your bed as her own. She may not appear to
be dominant in her overt behaviors, but SOMEONE has to be
higher ranking, in her mind. If you are not playing the role,
she will give it a shot - albeit, it is a very scary
proposition to her. She must be terribly conflicted in her
head. But, that can all be fixed.
Sara's
issues can be resolve and she will be a happier dog. Right
now, she is probably often in a state of fear - she is not
getting any information that there is a competent, higher
ranking individual in her life that places normal demands on
her to be a "big girl". You do not even demand that she walks
on her own. Yours is a situation that sometimes happens to
parents of premature infants. In the beginning, the baby is
very fragile, very weak, at the edge of death at any moment.
But, then, it survives. It thrives. It is competent
physically and mentally. But, some parents continue to
believe that the child could die at any moment and they treat
the child that way. Mostly, those children are absolute
hellions, spoiled rotten, lacking any self restraint etc...
protesting their conditions, making unrealistic demands of
their parents who then comply. It is a wholly up-side-down
relationship. That is Sara's fate, perhaps, if you do not
offer intervention.
We could address all of Sara's
issues in our Board/Train program. But, it would require that
you change, too. We never worry about the dog. But, people
are harder to convince to change. If you would like to review
our options for rehabilitation, you can read about it here:
Board/Train
Essentially, Sara's understanding
of a relationship with people has to be stripped down to the
core. You write to ask about an "elimination" issue. That is
just the symptom of the real problems. It's a bit like asking
a child counselor, "how do I get my kid to quit stealing money
from my purse", when the reason the child is taking the money
is to fund a drug habit. Sara needs to learn that she is
competent, that she can behave at a high standard and be
praised for her accomplishments. She also needs to learn
how to receive a negative consequence if she crosses
boundaries that are deemed unacceptable to cross (including
chewing your furniture). She needs to learn how to be a dog
and earn the respect that she deserves. She cannot feel good
about herself because you don't believe she is capable of
anything. We will teach her that she can behave normally,
that she can both stand up for herself and that she cannot
disrespect others. Then, we would have to work on you!
Let me know if you are interested
in our services. We would be happy to help you and Sara.
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